how to get a girlfriend

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Use this time to have fun and get to know yourself rather than trying to get serious. If you aren’t prepared to talk to a girl, you are likely going to be in trouble. Women like guys that are ready, up for the challenge. If you choose to stick in the “friend zone,” well you’re on your own.

Now that you’re ready, it’s time to approach her. Smile, relax your body language and approach in a non confrontational way like you’d do when you’re in Wallmart asking a shelf stacker where the butter’s at. Already have a special girl in mind?

Spending time with with one of her friends alone could send her mixed signals and make her think that you’re interested in her friend. It’s okay if you’ve never heard of her interests or if you don’t like some of them, but don’t put her down if you don’t enjoy them. If you want to be relationship material, you need to make an effort to learn about her interests. Getting a girlfriend can be hard — especially in middle school. Many girls and guys go through rapid physical and emotional changes in middle school and are still on the way to figuring out who they are and what makes them happy.

Where to look for?

When you read The Flow or listen to The Flow on Audio, you will know what to say and do at each step of the way with a woman so you don’t get stuck. So, if you want to bring out that side of her, make sure that you make her feel a lot of attraction for you, get to a kiss, have sex with her and then don’t push for a relationship. So, the way that you have to approach it is to make her feel sexually attracted to you, get to a kiss, get to sex and then make sure that you’re not trying to push for a committed relationship.

Work on the problem at hand and take women OUT of the equation. Which means you need to explore the reasons why you’re introverted. Most likely it’s because of social communication skills, lack of self-esteem, not feeling confident enough around others, and the mindset that you NEED to DO something to get noticed… and you don’t have to DO anything. First of all – change your mindset.

  • Of course, if you’re taking risks and interacting with those women, it also becomes more apparent that they’re just regular people like you.
  • After you’ve gotten to know each other, pick a time to ask her out, like in the hall after school, so you’re not rushed and can have some time alone.
  • But they are guidelines, not rules.
  • Sex is a huge factor in relationships and can be a deciding factor for a girl.
  • If a guy starts spoiling a woman right away, she will come to expect that kind of treatment.

If you settle too quickly you WILL revert back to your older self and you WILL lose the girl and then have to start all over again. If you settle too early it’s highly likely you’re going to screw it up sooner or later anyways. Getting a girlfriend is NOT getting the next “hot” girlfriend you see. Let’s say you land some hot girl by your side and she’s seems really into you – without blowing it entirely with you (you can keep her around to date) but until you’re ready do NOT settle down with her. Make yourself ready and be prepared to do things and say things you’ve never done before.

11) Don’t be afraid to show you care for her

That guy will not have a girlfriend at the end of the day. So, be attentive and listen. If you can’t handle hearing this girl talk, then she’s probably not a good match for you anyway. #7 Ask her on a date.

Fact. Over-thinking everything and being nervous or afraid is not going to make a girl find you attractive. Most likely you’ll get friend-zoned.

Straining over how to tell a girl you love her can keep a guy up at night for months. So, put yourself out of your misery. If you’re doing everything right, you’re probably ready to find out how to ask a girl to be your girlfriend. And remember, no one loses a relationship because of one bad kiss.

And that’s ok — that’s part of the process and it might be something you need to do just like I did. Women are drawn to people who believe in themselves. Who know what they want.

If you’ve found a girl you’re interested in pursuing, pursue her! If you know her from school or she’s already a friend then just ask her straight up, “Do you want to go out with me on Saturday night? ” Don’t start sweating or stuttering, just say it with confidence.

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